While traveling in New Zealand a few years ago, my husband and I noticed that all the children were so polite to the public bus drivers while getting on and off the bus.  We told this to our taxi driver and he replied, “We teach our children to be proper little kiwis.”  I believe it is never too early to start teaching good manners to our children.  A good method in teaching manners is called “proactive rehearsal”.  With this method, you first tell your child what to do and then give them a chance to practice. 

I also know that while manners can be taught, they differ among cultures.  For example, it is important to tell your child what to do or say when they first meet an adult.  In American culture, the typical acknowledgement involves first making eye contact and then saying hello to the adult.  A preschool child does not need to have a full conversation with the adult but can be expected to make a basic acknowledgement.  If the child does not have the confidence to speak, a smile and/or a wave is a good start, Practice at home with your child in a fun and relaxing manner.  “Pretend I am Mrs. Bird.  What will you say to me when you first walk into the Green Room?”  As you drive to school, ask your child, “What will you say to Mrs. Simpson when you first see her this morning?”   With practice and parents modeling the eye contact and verbal greeting, your child will gradually be able to greet adults with ease.